The # Me too Movement

Today is probably a good day that there is no comments on my blog because i am gonna talk about the #metoo movement. Being someone who was abused as a child sexually I understand the pain and hurt that comes with all that. Hell I am still in therapy today, probably dealing with issues that came from those experiences or made my conditions worse whichever doesn’t matter the issues are there. Being a woman who was abused and their innocence taken away where the world turned dark and ugly, I found in my own personal experience that like gravitates to like. However this #metoo movement which could have been a good thing but has turned into a hard ugly thing, blacked by false accusations and people whose stories are not true. It takes away from the ones that really did have a experience or event that should be brought to light. Instead its a Salem witch hunt all over again this time attacking any person someone has a vendetta against while innocent of sexual misconduct has angered the person in some way.

I’m sure that automatically someone is saying that I am disillusion, however I am not. Lets get some great examples on why I feel this #metoo movement needs to take into consideration the follow words besides freedom of speech:

Defamation, denigration, disparagement, aspersion, calumny, depreciation, abusive, slander, bad mouthing, contemptuous,viper to name a few. If you look up Defamation or slander you find so many words to describe many things that people can be in this instance. So I know people are wondering where the hell is she coming up with defamation and slander in the case of the #metoo movement. So let me give you some examples:

Rose McGowan

In an arrest warrant filed by Detective J.C. Hughes of the Metropolitan Washington Airports Authority, McGowan dropped her wallet next to her seat — 6L — after her United Airlines flight 653 from Los Angeles on Jan. 20. A member of the aircraft cleaning crew found the wallet, which had two small plastic bags containing white powder. According to police, the white powder tested positive for cocaine. Also in the wallet was McGowan’s California driver’s license, a medical marijuana card, credit card, and a car insurance card. Her statement was clearly fanatical and crazy, “Are they trying to silence me? There is a warrant out for my arrest in Virginia. What a load of horse (expletive),” she tweeted on Oct. 30, without stating who “they” refers to. Later she clarified she said that Harvey was trying to get her. She clearly needs to blame someone for what she did, oh lets bolster my claims and make it seem like its a grand conspiracy, and now everything bad happens to her its him going after her. I thought I was the fruit loop here.

Rose McGowan calls Matt Damon Dense

Mini Driver stated A difference between patting someone on the butt and rape or child molestation, right? Both of those behaviors need to be confronted and eradicated without question, but they shouldn’t be conflated. However Mini Driver decided she didn’t like his comment and started the chicken coop clucking with her statement, ” I honestly think that until we get on the same page, you can’t tell a woman about their abuse. A man cannot do that. No one can. It is so individual and so personal, it’s galling when a powerful man steps up and starts dictating the terms, whether he intends it or not.   So after thinking about her comment I think men can understand and comprehend, since men have their own abuse and issues aka Terry Crews.

Director Terry Gilliam believes that the #MeToo movement that has taken over Hollywood has become a “mob rule.”  This can defiantly be proven by many instances in the news.

I think a lot of women and men have used this as a way to make themselves relevant and prevalent. In some cases revenge as in this instance. 

“I went on a date with Aziz Ansari. It turned into the worst night of my life.”In it she detailed how they met (at an Emmy after-party), how they flirted for the next few days (over texts), how they got together (she came over for drinks at his apartment, then went for dinner and drinks at a fancy restaurant down the street, then came back to his house for more drinks), and how it ended in tears (Ansari moved in aggressively and awkwardly, they had oral sex, she went along with it all until he pushed for intercourse, she rebuffed him, they made out a bit more, she became uncomfortable and asked to leave, he called her an Uber and she left). The story quickly went viral and social media did what social media does: explode into outrage. Grace’s tale slid into the unfolding narrative of #MeToo and #TimesUp; indeed, the whole thing came about because Ansari, a noted male feminist, wore a #TimesUp button on the Golden Globes red carpet last week. The calls swiftly and mercilessly came: for Ansari to lose his show, for him to be shunned, for his career to end. He was one of the good ones, it’s always the good ones, this is why we can’t have nice things, #YesAllMen, etc. The only issue with all this is that this story about Ansari is nothing like the ugly tales of sexual abuse that have wafted out of Hollywood over the past six months or so. Not really. From Harvey Weinstein’s decades of sexual assaults and use of blacklists to Kevin Spacey’s predatory behavior toward young men to Louis C.K.’s masturbating in front of people without asking, these were all stories that were both criminal in nature and involved an abuse of power over underlings. The babe story is not about this. It is about a date that went badly, one that did not live up to the expectations of the woman involved. There’s a reason this story appeared in babe, rather than the New York Times or BuzzFeed or the Los Angeles Times or, yes, The Washington Post. One of the reasons is that, however Grace now thinks of the encounter, what happened isn’t sexual assault or anything close to it by most legal or common-sense standards. And bad dates – including terrible ones that leave one person feeling humiliated – aren’t actually newsworthy, even when they happen to famous people. But they sure tried to turn it into a witch hunt like with Matt Damon. But another, larger reason has to do with the fact that this not only harms the #MeToo narrative.

Where has innocent until proven guilty gone. People are so busy wanting to jump on this or that we forget that people are not always as innocent or truthful as we want them to be, especially Hollywood. I am not here trying to pull you to my way of thinking, just what I am thinking and feeling about all this. I wanted to provide a  few stories that have really made me think that we need to use our own brains to think these things through instead of letting someone else rile our chicken coop! If im gonna rile my chicken coop I will rile it up for all the right reasons.

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